Hey guys so before we get into today’s post, a quick disclaimer: it’s quite lengthy as I’m feeling particularly chatty this morning so if you need to take a break, grab a cup of tea or glass of wine and come back to it, then go ahead!
Today, I’m sharing my personal tips on snapping out of that self-destructive mental state of mind called self-pity and self-doubt. I’m not in any way insinuating that I’ve perfected my “snap-back” routine but these few things do alright for me.
Document your thoughts: You know all the time you spend mentally analyzing your situations without actually doing anything about them? Yeah, stop it. Instead, put pen to paper and document those feelings and thoughts. I try to stay away from technology and go old school because the last thing you need while trying to process your thoughts is an unnecessary social media notification disturbing your process. Writing is so therapeutic and helps you have a full understanding of whatever you think the problem is. At the end of the day, you might realize that whatever you were worried about was not as bad as you thought!
Avoid dwelling on negative thoughts: While this is easier said than done, it is generally a better option to focus on the brighter side of things. For the most part, I like to believe I’m an optimist but on those days when it’s impossible for me to crawl out of that pit of negativity, I do the most silly thing. I have a proper solo dance party. Now, if you’re a Grey’s Anatomy fan, you’re probably nodding your head in agreement to how effective a dance party in your underwear can be. Push a hard reset on your emotions by doing everything that makes you happy without thinking about it. You know the saying that goes “happiness is a choice”, take it literally.
“Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in the world” – Hellen Keller
Stop being so self centered & stay busy: As humans, we have the tendency to put ourselves at the centre of the universe and see everything from the viewpoint of how it only affects us (I promise I’m going somewhere with this, stay with me). At the beginning of the year, I had an amazing conversation with a friend, Vivian, about shifting focus from myself and consider what I do as a blogger as a need and service to my audience. While we were talking in blogging & productivity context, I find that applying that mentality to other aspects of my life helps with my personal not-so-good days. Spend your free time finding ways to help others, it doesn’t matter how small the deed is, paying for their coffee, offering occasional free services or even sharing a ride to work, putting a smile on the next person’s face will have a positive effect on your mood.
Accept it: You will have bad days. You will not always be motivated. You will not always be strong. You are not perfect. Accept it. But the best thing about being human is even though you falter, you doubt or hit rock bottom, everyday is a new opportunity to be better so embrace it. Accept each day with gratitude, put one foot in front of the other and make it worthwhile.
If you liked this post and you want me to ramble on here from time to time, please leave a comment below! Also, share how you get over your bad days & let’s keep the conversation going!
Abigail pair by Wana Sambo
Till next time…
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