24 YEARS, 24 LIFE LESSONS

Hello guys! How has 2017 been so far? This is the first post of the year and it also happens to be my birthday! I get excited about birthdays because to me, it marks a new beginning, just like a new year. I’ve decided not to bore you with a “new year, new me, resolutions/goals” post as I’m sure every blogger out there has one already.

I’m sharing 24 life lessons I’ve learnt over my years of existence as a human being. Please feel free to comment on what you resonate with the most!

  1. It’s NOT all about you.
  2. It’s pointless to try to spend all your energy to get rid of darkness, when it’s easier to introduce light
  3. You cannot mold yourself to fit and handle all situations, you are not a chameleon. Ask for help when necessary.
  4. You don’t have to fight hard to please the people that want to stay in your life.
  5. Positive energy is KEY!
  6. Anger isn’t worth it
  7. Contrary to popular opinion, vulnerability heals.
  8. Let go of expectations. When you have expectations of something, you put it in a predetermined box that has little to do with reality.
  9. Do not rush forgiveness for the sole purpose of being the bigger person, it’s not worth it.
  10. You have to trust yourself to come through for you everyday.
  11. You CAN’T control others. Trust me, I had the hardest time learning this one.
  12. Never stop learning, there is no such thing as knowing too much.
  13. Friendships are like delicate expensive flowers. Treat and nurture them as such.
  14. Your network is your net worth. Build solid professional relationships
  15. Money is just a small piece in a very big puzzle, it will never solve all problems
  16. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by. Pace yourself
  17. Love is more than a feeling, it is a continuous choice.
  18. “The moment is all there is. All our worries and plans about the future, all our replaying of things that happened in the past — it’s all in our heads, and it just distracts us from fully living right now”
  19. “You will miss a ton, but that’s OK. We’re so caught up in trying to do everything, experience all the essential things, not miss out on anything important … that we forget the simple fact that we cannot experience everything. That physical reality dictates we’ll miss most things. We can’t read all the good books, watch all the good films, go to all the best cities in the world, try all the best restaurants, meet all the great people. But the secret is: life is better when we don’t try to do everything. Learn to enjoy the slice of life you experience, and life turns out to be wonderful”
  20. Not everything that matters right now will matter in 5 months. Cut yourself some slack
  21. Small victories are as important as big victories. Celebrate as often as you can.
  22. Give yourself some credit. It’s easy to get lost in the pursuit of everything we’re not that we hardly reflect on how far we’ve come
  23. You can’t please everyone, so don’t bother trying.
  24. I have a lot left to learn. If there’s anything I’m sure about, it’s that I know almost nothing and the past 24 years were the foundation level.

On that note, happy 24th birthday to me!

xx

 (Photography by @ibukunwilliams_, Makeup by @faaribysisiope)

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    Vivian

    Happy Birthday, darling Alma.
    Your light will shine brighter and brighter forever.
    Your joy will know no end!

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      Alma

      Thank you very much my Viv <3

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    Tosin Olaniyi

    Every point was spot on! These are things I’ve been learning over time, too…and I’ve learnt that everyday is a chance to learn something new…i really love these pictures and your outfit ? ?
    Please tell us on Instagram where you got your outfit, I wouldn’t mind it for my next birthday too.
    Happy Birthday Alma, I love you. May this be your best year yet. Cheers.
    Tosin Olaniyi xx

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      Alma

      Awwww this warmed my heart so much! Thank you for this Tosin, thank you for reading my post and for the support! Outfit details will be up on the ‘gram asap! Love you too

      xx

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    Tobi Komolafe

    This is so beautiful!? Happy Birthday and have a beautiful year ahead Alma ????

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    MoonWalker

    Your lessons have taught me a whole lot right now,
    trying to let go of anger and expectations.
    Your outfit is soo Lovely??! ! And your smile (you don’t look sleepy here ?) the pictures are amazing! Ibukun and Ope ??
    Happy Birthday Alma! May this year brings you Peace and all your Heart Desires. Your Feed is???
    moonwalkertalks.blogspot.com

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      Alma

      Lmaoooo so I look sleepy on a regular? I have to fix that! Thank you reading!

      xx

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        MoonWalker

        Oh no! On your instastory of the day you took the shoot, you said you were “feeling sleepy”. So I meant you didn’t look sleepy in the pictures after all.

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          Alma

          Ohhhh that’s what you meant! Loool, my bad x_x

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    nenyescloset

    Happy birthday Alma. You look beautiful ?✨

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    Ody A

    Happy birthday dearie. Wishing u a great and fashionable 2017!!

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    Omolade

    Really lovely pictures and spot on life lessons too. I recently clocked 24 too and one of the things I realized is that I over-think/worry about the future a lot.

    And what I promised myself from them on is to take life one day at a time. I don’t want to back at 30 and realize I missed out on my youth?.

    Happy birthday dear. May all your wishes come true. Stay beautiful ?

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      Alma

      From one over thinker to another, it’s not worth it, glad I realised that early enough.
      Thank you for the wishes and stopping by!

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    Winifred

    Happy birthday Alma! I love these pictures and we get to see your smile! I’m learning to celebrate the “small” things in life and learning that nothing is actually small!

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    Ibi

    I definitely agree with all the points especially with letting go of expectations and giving yourself credit .I always doubt myself .happy birthday Alma I wish you a lifetime of happiness in good health and sound mind.

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      Alma

      Thank you very much!!

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    Feline Eyes

    Happy Birthday Alma. May God’s face shine upon you and may all your dreams come true. Enjoy your 24th.

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      Alma

      Thank you!!!

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    Mary

    Point 19 though (Major key) I’m just starting to accept/learn that. Thank God for all the wisdom you’ve amassed so far. Happy birthday Alma! You look amazing in these photos. Wishing you a joy filled 2017 and more blessings with your new age. xx

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    Layo

    Happy birthday beautiful. I resonate with every single point. Vulnerability truly heals. Have a wonderful day

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    James

    Wow..learnt so much ! My favorite is no 18! Have a wonderful year ahead..can’t wait for 25..so you could give another lesson? And that dress..killler! And the photographer did an awesome job

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    Peace

    No4 was spot on for me. I have learnt not to try too hard to please people because you can never satisfy everyone (you are not jollof rice) lol.
    Have an amazing 24! More blessings ?

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    Ajibike Oyindamola

    Happy 24th birthday Alma!
    I hope you had a good one.
    Hmm some things that matter now won’t matter in the next 5 months, cut yourself some slack. That’s quite a big lesson to have in mind. Also, you can’t please everyone so don’t bother trying. In fact most of the points are things everyone should have in mind and I sure will. I pray this year will be an amazing year for your awesome self! ?
    Lifeofdammy.com

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    Abosede Oladeinde

    I love your blog soooo much…its like air for me…thanks so much. This however is my first time commenting. Hopefully one of those dapmod glasses becomes mine lol…have a lovely day

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    Yin

    Number 14 is something I’m still working on, coming from a very shy person. Hopefully by my next birthday, I can boast about conquering that aspect. Have an amazing celebration, beautiful photos as usual.

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    Beauty adaugo

    Yes to pacing yourself. Overtime I’ve learnt to allow myself grow at my own time rather than compare myself to my peers. Happy birthday Alma. I wish you the best things in life ?

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    Odunayo

    Happy Birthdayyy Alma! I’m one of your day one readers and it’s amazing to see how much you’ve grown in all this while. You go girl! God’s blessings today and forever !

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      Alma

      Thank you for being a day one! I appreciate it <3

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    Ofure Egbele

    I can relate with lesson 3, no one is an island!!

    Happy birthday dear! May God shorten to days what others haven taken years to achieve!! Have an amazing year ahead!!!

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      Alma

      AMEN!! Thank you baby!

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    Ifeoma

    Happy birthday Alma!!! I was just nodding my head to every point as I read this post, cheers to more beautiful years

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    Chidimma ada

    Wonderful piece. ?

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    Shalom

    Happy birthday Alma.

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    Beniboba

    Happy birthday girl.
    Amazing photoshoot. ?

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    Tayo

    Shine bright as you always have Alma!May this birthday be a special milestone leading to greater things dear! …I wouldn’t mind rocking a pair of dapmod for my birthday next month tho?

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    Tayo

    May you continue to shine bright as you always have ,may this birthday be a special milestone to wonderful things in your life!Nice outfit……….wouldn’t mind a pair of dapmod for my birthday next week tho?I pray am lucky. Lol

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    Mary Aloyi

    Very Lovely Post, that no 23 got me, made me remember Sometime last year when I tried to please people, but thank God I’m off it now.. Happy Birthday Alma, May God bless and Enlarge your coast.. May he give you more Wisdom. Do have a blast

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    Ed

    Happy birthday to you.may you continue to grow in grace.most of this is what’s needed to be imbibed by our current generation.everyone is in a hurry.

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    Chiazoka

    I honestly expected to see honour given to God. You’re made by him and everything you are and own, you owe to him. Happy Birthday!

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      Alma

      Hi Chiazoka, I have never shied away from giving glory to God, you would know this if you followed my social media accounts.

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    Nayonde

    4,5 and 6 are major keysss. What’s life without positivity? We all feel we all have our difficult moments when we doubt ourselves but the most important part is you remember to pick yourself up and stay positive and that’s important.

    Cheers to your new age Alma ?

    I’m definitely in for the GIVEAWAY

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    Joye

    Well thought out, very important life lessons. Thank you for the reminder that we are all truly blessed in one way or another. I’m also a people pleaser, so I need to hear this kinda thing every now and then. :)

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    Praise Abu

    Happy birthday Alma.
    I can relate with most of the life lessons you listed above. I strongly believe that positive energy is Key and I try to stay positive no matter the situation I find myself in. I also believe that life is a learning process, each say I look forward to the lessons and try as much to learn from each experience.
    Cheers to many more years. You are only 24 years younger.
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